July 5, 2017
I’m pretty sure I’ve determined that I am my own worst enemy. In business. In life. In productivity. In friendship. It’s easy to blame anything else for my problems, but when I’m really honest with myself and look at the situation clearly – I’ve likely self-sabotaged in some way. Whether that be self-doubt, disorganization, overcommitment, or comparison…I am often to blame. I’d venture to guess the same is likely true of you.. 😉
Now – before you click away because who has time for negativity, hear me out. 😉 I’m not here to tell us we suck. Quite the opposite, actually! I’m writing this to share about the tools we have to work through this issue right now. And I don’t mean another cup of coffee or a nap (although both sound divine right about now). Nope, the tools I’m talking about are 100% inside that pretty little heart of yours.
When I shared about my first writing retreat, I hinted at the wonders self-discovery has done for me and today I’m going to share a bit more about that.
But first, I want you to know that I’m choosing to write and share through the difficulty. I’m not perfect at this. Heck, I’m far from it. But I know that we rise by lifting others and I hope that my story will help you to know that you’re not alone, and that we can totally do this together!
So let’s get right into it.
I often allow my thoughts and emotions to control my day, and usually that’s not for the better. When I have too much on my weekly priority list, it overwhelms me and I struggle to be productive at all. Sometimes, when I’m nervous about a client meeting later in the day, I’m distracted and less productive before it happens. And sometimes, I’m just sitting at my desk, crying, for unknown reasons… Oh you do that too? PHEW! 😉
The monster is self-doubt. It’s rampant, it’s strong, and it’s at war with your dreams.
But what do we do about it?
Lemme guess. Usually nothing, right?
Well, there’s the problem.
How can we expect to battle self-doubt if we’re not replacing the negativity with something positive? Something true?
It doesn’t work to just say to myself: “Hey, you! Quit it! You’re not a failure!” I have to tell myself what I am in place of a failure. What is true that proves that wrong?
As a believer, I have learned just how powerful it is to replace lies with truth and how important it is to cling to that truth. To mediate on that truth. To really believe and rest in that truth. It takes practice and it takes persistence, but the result is life-changing!
So, let’s try this. Right now – what kind of self-sabotaging thoughts are you having? Maybe you’ll resonate with a few of my examples below:
I have too much to do…I can’t get anything done.
I NEED to be posting on Instagram every day – if I don’t, I’ll never “make it.”
So-and-so is over there doing WAY better than I am and she didn’t even have to try!
I need a vacation to be productive.
People just don’t understand me. My target market doesn’t exist.
So, now imagine just trying to “push through” those thoughts. Even if you “know” the truth – your heart may not be accepting it. Often, we entrepreneurs find every reason to believe we should throw in the towel and call it a day.
But, instead, let’s counter those lies with the truth.
I have SO much to do. But I have to start somewhere, so I’m going to start with one thing. One step at a time = progress.
Instagram is awesome, and I love it, but today, it’s just not priority and that’s OKAY. The important followers will be there tomorrow. What’s most important is that I accomplish my #1 priority first.
So-and-so is doing so well! That’s amazing. But she has her own story. My story is different and that’s good, because it’s mine. I’m sure she had a lot of bad days leading up to the success she’s seeing now and she definitely still has bad days even now. Either way, I’m choosing to be happy for her! (Romans 12:15)
This is a season. I’m tired and although I’d love a vacation – I know that I can get through this. As a believer, I know that my strength is not found in me. (2 Corinthians 12:9-10)
I’m struggling to resonate with my target market. I know they’re out there – I just need to do some research and learn how to talk to them…where they’re hanging out…what they need!
Isn’t it crazy how recognizing the reality of the situation can completely change your perspective?! You know what else is crazy? The fact that you know this. I know this. We’ve known it for a long time – but how many times do we actually put this into practice?
When you’re venting with a friend or sharing your thoughts with your husband – do you complain…or do you talk through the situation and recognize what’s really true? Do you get frustrated when people share the truth of the situation with you?
When you’re alone with your thoughts, do you just try to move on, or do you make note of that thought and repeat truth back to yourself?
I ask these questions, because I want us to realize that we have the ability to redirect our thoughts. We have the ability to work PAST self-doubt and negativity with a little intentionality.
Now, let’s clear the air about one more thing here. This isn’t a “positivity” post. I certainly don’t believe that if you just “stay positive” that everything will work out. Nah, this is just a reality check. You see, you’re not perfect. Holy moley, I’m certainly not perfect. *Insert sarcastic gasp here* 😉 😉
And it’s because of that reality that we need to both recognize and learn where we need to grow. You see, the only person you can control is yourself, so wouldn’t it make sense to focus your attention on improving what you can control instead of what you can’t?
Mindset is a powerful thing. And you have the ability to shift that to the right direction.
Annnnd because I love y’all – I created a ‘lil printable for this exact reason.
Want it? Get it, girl! 😉 click the image below 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼
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